You’re Not Distracted. You’re Avoiding Life.
You don’t hate your life. You just can’t sit still with it.
Everyone is distracted. Most people sit behind screens numbing themselves from the lives they hate. Others chase a new body or more money to escape the same thing. I’ve done both. Entertainment and food were my drug. That led to me weighing 120kg and feeling empty. So I locked in. Replaced comfort with pain. Lost 50kg and started “winning”. On the outside, everything had changed. But inside, I still felt the same. That’s when I realised there’s different levels of distraction.
Levels of Distractions
Most know scrolling is a distraction. Some think girls are a distraction. Few realise chasing money, status, and productivity are too.
You use all of them to fill the emptiness — the void of existing. You're not trying to win. You're trying to escape. Screens, success, and even spirituality are just different levels of the same escape.
The first level is avoidance. Food, porn, and dopamine. You're hiding from life. From yourself. But it’s not your life you hate — it’s the feelings. Boredom. Fear. Regret. You're not escaping reality. You're escaping emotion.
The second level is ambition. Gym grind. Hustle. Building. You’re still running — just toward a better-looking life. Now it’s anxiety, frustration, and impatience. You numb yourself with progress instead of porn.
The third level is alignment. You speak of values, balance, purpose. It looks mature. It sounds enlightened. But you’re still chasing peace. And you can’t find peace while you're chasing it.
It’s not about running, upgrading, or levelling up. It’s about learning to sit with reality without reaching for an escape.
Stillness
When you stop chasing, you’re left with silence. No dopamine. No noise. No numbers. Just you. You’re forced to face yourself. To confront everything you’ve buried. And it hurts. Boredom returns. Regret gets louder. Loneliness breaks through. You’ll want to escape again. Listen to music for connection. Chase numbers for confidence. Hit the gym to self-improve. But you have to resist. Because that’s the only way you’ll find stillness.
Practically, it looks like this:
No entertainment: Screens are used for work and nothing else. Cut Netflix, Instagram, and Spotify. When you silence your environment, you silence your mind.
Solitude: Prioritise time alone. Completely alone. Schedule at least an hour a day to sit with your own thoughts. You’ll realise loneliness is an illusion.
Reflection: Question yourself. Relentlessly. Why do you think the way you do? Why do you do the things you do? That’s how you break behaviour patterns. You catch the thoughts before they spiral into action. And you return your mind back to stillness.
You’ll start finding moments of stillness. Where your mind goes quiet and you’re grounded in the present. You’ll stop chasing and reacting. But that doesn’t mean you do nothing.
True Alignment
You used to chase dopamine to numb emotion. You chased success out of ego. When you’re still, you don’t chase. Emotion and ego are still there. They just don’t drive you anymore. You’re no longer reacting. You’re at peace. Then you’ll start asking yourself: what now?
You’ve achieved a level of clarity most never find. But you’re still young. You have time. You have energy. And that’s a good thing. You’re in a position of strength. Because now, you can start living with intention.
Health: You train hard and eat clean. Not to look good. But because it’s your responsibility. Allowing yourself to get unhealthy is selfish.
Work: You build and create. Not for status. But to serve others. Whether it’s for your family or the world.
Relationships: You connect and socialise. Not for validation. But for impact. You become a positive influence on others.
Alignment looks boring. It’s not fast, flashy, or fun. But it’s clean. It’s consistent. And it compounds. You don’t chase numbers — but you grow. You don’t seek attention — but you lead. You don’t try to look disciplined — but you are. You’re not trying to become someone. You’ve simply returned to who you are.
Final Thoughts
Distraction isn’t just your phone. It’s the thoughts in your head. The goals you chase without questioning why. Most men spend their lives running — either numbing themselves or disguising the escape as ambition. But peace isn’t found in progress. It’s found in stillness. In choosing action from clarity, not impulse. Stop running. Face yourself. Then move — not to become someone, but because you finally remembered who you are. Most men never stop running. The few who do — change everything.
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